Mrs JLS journey to saving the marriage

[MrsJLS]

Dear Steve85. Thank you so much for your post and I couldn't agree more than yes, children issue, is very important for me and it may or may not, after the wedding when the reality kicked in- have scared him off again. The most upsetting thing is that it was the very same reason of my divorce to my first husband. Although looking back I| believe that DB/DR would have helped,. I married very young and I didn't talk about having children the first tiem round until when I was about 25/26 he said a definite no to children I decided to divorce. Funny enough we got back together after the divorce but by then it was too late for me and my heart and I wanted to start with someone else while I am still young. So I met my current husband and I was very open to my willingness of having children. Oh well.. Maybe I have a type!! But it is ridiculous that the second husband I got married to does not want children. Maybe I am not meant to have them?
He does keep telling that we have communication issues and we don't talk. It has gone so far that I have been very conscious about what I talk that it almost became natural... I really want to sort that and have some fun conversations and be natural..

But now he wants to divorce- he even confirmed this to me this morning although I am cooking supper tonight for myself and him.

I don't think being an older father bothered him too much because his own dad had a second marriage when he had 3 children in his mid/late sixties. The children (his stepbrother and step sisters) told me that they couldn't have happier childhoods and better dad and they wouldn't change it for the world ... so he has a real sample in his family. Also being 61 and getting married for the first time was a major step for my husband, he had time to think it through, his friends were surprised too.. they thought he would be an eternal batchelor... and I believe he is a family man and would make a wonderful father. I work and have career too and there is no problem with finances etc. We are both attractive, tall ... and friends have often told us that we make a good looking couple...

maybe I am convincing myself?

The bottom line is that I love him. I really do.