Arsh, the good thing is there appears to be total consensus on this forum that your husband isn't leaving because you were too controlling or because you didn't support him enough while he was depressed.
Arsh, I missed the fact that your husband was depressed. My W also suffered depression, so I bought "Depression for Dummies" or one of the similar books. Something that still sticks with me is that something like 95% of marriages where one person is depressed end in divorce. Some because the non depressed spouse can't take it anymore and says "I quit," but about half because when the depressed spouse improves, they feel like their spouse didn't support them adequately, and don't feel like they can rely upon them in the future
The latter is what happened, partially, to my marriage. But it's not fair. You and I handled it the very best we could. The very best we could. Personally, I think my W's expectations were wildly unrealistic.
But none of that matters. You could have been a paragon of "wifeness", but he probably just couldn't see it through the lens of his depression.
I guess what I'm saying is, yes, some of it is probably on you. But a lot of it is on his perception of you, and you can't change that overnight. Give him time, give him space, and hopefully he'll return, physically and emotionally.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17