Amoafwl, thanks again. I hear ya, it's just one thing knowing what I should be doing and another one managing to do it.
I didnt say it was easy! But its the steps you need to go through!
Originally Posted by HumBug
I am struggling to keep busy as I so quickly seem to run out of energy when I am with other people, and all I want to do is go back home. I haven't been going out much at all in our married life, and I never really missed it much, I guess I am a bit of a hermit anyways, so it is hard to force myself. Also, because of the impending move, I am trying not to spend money I might need for a rent deposit or covering both places for a while until the house is sold, so I feel guilty for even just going for a drive.
Again, I didnt say it was easy. But the more you do it, the more you will enjoy it. You say you dont want to sit waiting for her to come home....and then you wind up sitting, waiting for her to come. YOU have to break the cycle. There are surely tons of things you can do which dont cost money - go volunteer somewhere, see what kinds of clubs there are in the area, take up a hobby. Im guessing at the library or community center or meetup.com or something, there are lots of activities that are reasonably inexpensive.
You need to make YOU a priority. Until YOU are a healthy individual, your W isnt going to be interested in reconciling and frankly, even if she were, it wouldnt be a lasting connection. The only person that can control your happiness right now is you. YOU are making the CHOICE to be unhappy based on her actions. How can you take back that power? It isnt easy, but I know you CAN do it.
