I also had an EA with a divorced person. ExF actually never knew about it. We never talked about anything bad or sexual etc it was more asking his opinion of my life and what should I do to fix this. It was totally wrong (and was a year or so ago) but my exF wouldn't listen to me. He didn't seem like he cared how I felt except for every few weeks then he would go back to "I'm more important than you" or complaining. Complaints and negatively depress me and shut me down. Just some more added insight.
