I just read your initial sitch and you sound exactly like my exF. He was overly critical, worked too much, seemed angry all the time etc. I wanted to leave my F many times but didn't have the courage. She is most likely second guessing herself and if I were in her shoes, I would think whatever changes you are making are temporary. I would try to really work at it to make them permanent. We may be able to help each other on this. I'm sure in your eyes you didn't think you were "that bad" but dealing with someone critical like that really wears a woman down! She is probably feels like this is her only option. I am going to keep reading and hopefully give you some female perspective. I'm not a vet and suck at DB, but maybe a genuine female perspective will help. PS. We have kids etc too so similar situation...
