Last night at my Church group, I was thinking about just letting go, leaving, dropping legal objections, and just trusting God to deliver me to the right answer. However, knowing my rashness, I did not want to see W and visted my BIL (of W's sis) down the street to watch some games until I safely assumed W would be asleep. I also did not see W this morning as I went out the back when she came from the gym (trust me--no contact right now is the right thing to do).
This morning, the pendulem started swinging back the other way.
Quote: Pretty soon, his attempts were being thwarted by not giving him what he wanted. If the other person is not joining in the drama, pretty soon the drama fizzles out. Just consider yourself a firefighter, walking around constantly with a pail of water, broom and dustpan....
Wow!!! That's exactly why I feel I should not move out of my house. Tonight when I have more time I am going to read every crazymaker thread. When i think about it, my W has been telling me that she is going to fall apart/slit her wrists/be crushed for ten years!!!!!! And she is still standing. If I leave, will any of this change? What will be the next stage for drama. I have to remeber that while I contributed to our mess--where we are tonight is not my fault and the only question before me is what will make W and the lives of our children better? She feels it is a Sep without MC; I'm not convinced. But I still don't have an answer .
