So I don't know your sitch, so ignore me if I am off base. But the way you talked to your wife is the way my exF talked to me. It was cold and cruel. I, like you, struggle with the whole detach with love thing. I don't know how to be nice while not being cold. If I were your wife, I would feel like you don't give a crap about me. My exF would always act like a TV show was more important than a conversation with me.
