Oddly enough, this is how I met Trish (Cycler). Her H is a crazymaker, and we managed to help each other.
I know she still lurks, so I'll ask her to jump in. Until she does, I'll give you a synopsis of things that she did that worked.
When he tried to engage her in his attempts, she would shut him down... by responding rather than reacting, and doing the total opposite of what she did before that invited her to play out his drama du jour.
Pretty soon, his attempts were being thwarted by not giving him what he wanted. If the other person is not joining in the drama, pretty soon the drama fizzles out. Just consider yourself a firefighter, walking around constantly with a pail of water, broom and dustpan....
Trish, where the heck are you?
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
