Arshi - I second what Blu and Nicole said about there being an A or at least a fantasy of an A or a different life. My W couldn't wait to get everything done. Within a week she wanted out of the marriage, sell the house, and get everything separated. She had an EA, even if she doesn't recognize that it was an EA, with a guy who was going through challenges in his marriage and they bonded over that. He even physically made a move on her and she refused to talk about it with me. This was when I was still weak and not having found DB, that I just kinda took it meekly and didn't give her some repercussions.

At one point after BD, she told me about her fantasy of moving to a bigger city and having a downtown condo and living a large life. So, even if she wasn't contemplating an A with this guy, she was definitely in fantasy land. With DB, I finally got out of her way and got my space and now she's dealing with whatever fantasy A or real A that she thought she was getting into. She was also on her phone a lot and leaving rooms to chat or text etc. It was ridiculous.

But yeah, doing everything quickly and moving so fast is very suspect.


No one is coming to save you!