I think my wife is having a midlife crisis affair

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And the answer is --- yes, no, all of the above, none of the above!

That is why you have to stop asking the question.

But you won't. I didn't. And even when I thought I was starting to, I wasn't. I realize that now, five years in, because now I am really doing it. Just keep trying to surrender all of it to God or the universe if you don't believe in God, and eventually, some long time from now, you will realize you are doing it.