Ovrrynbow, one other thought comes to mind. If the other man ends the relationship with your wife, or they're having problems and she's starting to think he'll bail, she might choose to come back to you by default but she'll still have feelings for the other man and would go back to him if he offers her another chance. She's obviously not at that point yet, but if she does come back and start working on the marriage again it's important to somehow independently verify if she ended the relationship or if he did. I now know my husband was dumped by his first affair partner which is probably one reason why he came back so quickly the first time (and probably dumped by his second affair partner which is why he didn't file for divorce). One other concern is if your wife is only 27 this is not good. At that age many, if not the majority, of people are still unmarried. There are a lot of temptations out there if she's not ready to settle down. So it sounds like she needs to grow up and learn what it means to be married and honor marriage vows. I hope she'll learn this lesson so you and she can have a strong marriage before having kids or reaching other important milestones.
