My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 3

[ovrrnbw]

Orange, Gordie. There's been a couple of updates that you may have missed.

I did "let her" go to see her sister. In fact, you worded it from a position of control, which I never mentioned I had (control) and don't pretend to have.

I'm not going to let her come back into the MBR if she is still seeing the OM, which when I asked her if she told OM what she's doing that meant did she tell him she was done with OM and working on her marriage. I'm not going to "hang out" or "date" her if the OM is still around. Maybe this wasn't clear before - this is my boundary.

Up until this week, she'd been staying with OM 5 or 6 nights a week. On the nights she did stay, we hadn't been sleeping in the same bed except once or twice here and there. She stayed home 3 nights in a row this week in a spare bedroom. This is a big change, not that it means everything is hunky dory.

Me suggesting sleeping in separate beds is relevant b/c it was our first night since she said she wanted to "try" and she expected to be a brat and still get to sleep in the MBR with me. This was boundary enforcement.

I woke up early to fix the car b/c it's my car, I like fixing [censored], and b/c I said I would.