Sorry you find yourself in this situation we all know so well. I have been away from the boards for some time doing a flyby. I skimmed your posts.
If I have any advise for you, it is to become the best dad you can. Do not let anyone, or anything stand in your way of that.
"What is best for your kids is best for you."
Let this statement guide you though this difficult period of your life.
Your children need you involved in their lives just as much as they need their mother. Get 50/50 parenting in place.
Focus on being DAD right now. Take care of you and your amazing children. You will not regret it.
As far as WAW, you have no control of her. You do have control of how you interact and respond. Change the way you interact and that forces a change in the relationship.
This is a great time to learn how to be an attractive man. Confidence, respect, humor....this list goes on and on.
Thanks Ready2Change. I am getting better as to how I interact with W but I still need to learn more.
When W left she had said the kids would be fine. On Wednesday, kids let it slip that youngest has started asking to phone me. W hadn't wanted me to know. I think W has now realised they are missing me more and more each week. I have been their main carer since they were born and I think W may have some resentment towards me for that.
As for me, l have confidence going to talk to anyone anywhere but the people I know locally also know W so I don't want to say too much to them at the moment. I need to get a social life outside of that. However, at the moment I find it hard to go for a walk without having to hide a few tears at times.
I want my W and family back but a massive problem is that W is so, so stubborn and rarely ever says sorry or admits mistakes. Her character isn't someone who will say they want to come back even if she does... and that was before she changed. She is also living with her parents who I know will be urging her to leave me. There are so many factors against me but I'm still going to try.
