Husband left for the second time - 5

[NicoleR]

Neffer, thanks! The positive aspect of having lived in war zones is that I'm familiar with instability and change. The actual breaking of the marriage is much worse than any financial problem.

Steve, my husband hasn't indicated he'd like to move in with us. He's living in our house far away and he'll go wherever he gets a job. He may get a new job 1,000 miles away or he may get one really close, but he has his family living an hour from us. They have a big house with a live-in maid and two spare bedrooms so surely he'll choose to live with them. If he asked to live with us I'd be shocked. I just can't imagine it ever happening unless we work towards reconciling first. Even when he was crying on the phone and apologizing this morning he still didn't say he wants to get back together. He didn't say he's sorry for hurting me or anything even close to that. He's only sorry that he's out-of-money and got fired. Your advice is completely right, I just don't see him being that desperate with his family nearby ready to house him.