Steve, no definitely not that. For sure I had faults. I'm simply and only saying what if I say it was faults 1-5 whereas W believes "nope it was actually 6-10". We always say no telling what the WW is thinking/feeling and not to try to figure them out. So hypothetically without confirmation from the aggrieved on what we believe our faults were, then we likely may never definitively know.
Yeah i mean your last paragraph is basically what I'm getting at...although for sure none of us are perfect nor fully awesome or without fault. Without the affirmation of the WW what I mean is saying maybe it was just 1-2 things that drove them bonkers...absent that validation many of us could deep end into like 15 things we think we screwed up. The deeper we make our supposed pit of failures, the more dramatically and deeper into self-pity, etc we can fall.
I'm definitely doing the self reflection for myself, but it can be exhausting and absent "knowing" what if I'm barking up the entirely wrong trees fault wise is all.
Very much appreciate your continued discussion on this with me!
