She never complained about anything I was or wasn't doing, so it is hard to do 180s, if I don't know what I should be doing differently.
This is your chance to look in the mirror and change things that you may not think are attractive.
She does not have to have complained about it, in fact it might be that you always wanted to have green hair but were afraid to do it.
Most people after they are here for a while find out that they were co-dependent, conflict avoiders, nice guys/gals, pursurers. Then they work to change those things.
Hope that makes sense.
Cadet, thanks for that, there are a lot of things I have been wanting to do for a while but didn't as I knew she wouldn't like it or let me do it. A while back I floated the idea of doing some of them, not because I thought the relationship was on the rocks but because I wanted to get them out of my system so to speak so I wouldn't constantly dream about doing stuff. That now felt like the beginning of the end, as that seemed to have coincided with her making the "new friend" and eventually telling me we were over. So it's a lose lose situation, I tried to do things I wanted to do to make the relationship better, to then have more time for us, while she saw it as me wanting out and then getting out herself?
