Moving On To The Bright Side 2

[rexgm]

I am going to give it one more date and see how I feel. I don’t think I am committed after two dates but I agree I don’t want to settle if I am really not feeling it.

In my opinion, you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Why do you have to feel committed after 2 dates let alone 15. Take your time and date around, even date multiple women at the same time if you like. You just got out of a long marriage and there is no need to hurry and jump into another relationship. She is a widow and is currently single, I'm sure you are not her first date so dont worry about getting serious, just enjoy the new friendship and maybe it will turn into something more maybe it wont. I guess what i am saying is if you enjoy her company but dont feel a spark, there is nothing wrong with just going out with her on multiple dates.

As for what you are attracted to, you cant change that. Everyone has a type. My type is like your type but I just date younger. It is much harder for me because I am 5'8" and obese. I weigh around 330, i dont look quite that heavy, but I am still fat. I am completely ok that some women dont find me attractive, everyone has their type. Some women do though and I have learned to just focus my time on the ones that are interested and if they are not, to just move on.

Unfortunately there is not much spark left, the hope is almost gone and vanished. I just feel that there has been so much damage done that it would be almost impossible to recover.

You can see that you are not completely over your ex. She has moved on to a new man, so reconciliation should be out of your mind. All that I would hope for now is that this man can be a good example for your daughters when you are not there.

I also have a feeling that you are trying to keep up with your ex and you shouldnt worry about her. Remember she asked for the divorce, not you, so if she has not made any changes in herself, she will return to her old ways, and then the new guy will be the one going through what you went through. Take pleasure in that if it makes you feel better.

Rexgm