She never complained about anything I was or wasn't doing, so it is hard to do 180s, if I don't know what I should be doing differently.
This is your chance to look in the mirror and change things that you may not think are attractive.
She does not have to have complained about it, in fact it might be that you always wanted to have green hair but were afraid to do it.
Most people after they are here for a while find out that they were co-dependent, conflict avoiders, nice guys/gals, pursurers. Then they work to change those things.
