I have never posted over here in piecing, but these posts on crazymaking were just too close to home not to respond. As I was reading what Meredith wrote, I was saying "yep, done that... That's me.... ugh, I really am a crazymaker!"
I too fought with my H to get what I needed. My H too hated fighting, and would try to avoid it at all costs. I took this as he didn't care enough about me to put the time and effort into "fixing" what I thought we needed to work on. Only now do I realize that it wasn't really the problem I wanted fixed, but to hear him say something like what can I do hon? I know that staying home with 3 kids is tough, but you are doing a great job. Anything to fill up MY love tank.
It does seem silly now, to not get that by picking these fights, wanting everything in black and white, that I was pushing my H so far away. He finally gave up, because he felt that no matter what he did, I wouldn't/couldn't be happy.
I thank you for readdressing this crazymaking "disease" because you have given yet another db'r much to think about.
