Congrats. I am glad to hear that you are a success story. I never assumed otherwise. I appreciate you taking the time to help out us newbies. My comment was very much meant to be general. I don't know how healthy it is to continue on in limbo for years. I certainly could be speaking out of my arse in a pique of newbie impatience.
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I actually agree with you on the lottery. I am pretty staunchly opposed to gambling, legally or illegally. But mtb made a good point that most that play the lottery do so reasonably do to the hope of winning, without depending on winning it for their future well-being. But guess what, you are right, the vast majority would all be better off NOT playing it. Just like the vast majority of us would be better off NOT having to go through our sitches.
I don't think there is a "reasonable" way to play the lottery, I think it is always delusional. I don't see it as a moral issue, simply a question of healthy vs. unhealthy choices. Also, I think the parallel is not between playing the lottery and being in our sitch. We are in our sitches regardless, that is a given. The parallel is between hoping for R and playing the lottery, both are choices that we can make. So the question is whether or not we are better off NOT holding onto hope. Wouldn't our recovery be helped by letting go of that hope? Wouldn't we be able to process our grief more effectively?
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
