chris, wow, lots here focused on her.

Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy? The FB account exchange and your behavior afterward smacked of NGS. You may want to explore that and consider a 180.

What is the purpose of the joint FB account? I have seen couples do this but usually they are both in alignment in that being the best approach. However, she isn't. Is this another way you are trying to control her? You realize that having a joint FB account won't preclude her from still having her own FB account, right? Also, did you make this a requirement for reconciliation? The way you worded it I got the impression that is what you are implying. My advice is not to put roadblocks like that in her way for moving towards R.

Things have improved. She's back home. She's seeing your changes. She is sometimes saying ILY. (Glass half full man! Don't look at it as sometimes she doesn't, but that sometimes she does!)

You don't feel loved. Welcome to 99.99999999999999999999999999999999% of the sitches here. I think you are a) too focused on her. CONCENTRATE ON YOU. b) still too emotionally attached. "I don't feel loved". So what. LOVE YOURSELF.

"I hope I'm not a doormat, I hope she comes around."

Okay so these two things are not alike. You being a doormat is COMPLETELY in your control. You can decide to NOT be a doormat! This forum is full of advice and suggestions to avoid that Specifically, GAL, detaching, 180ing........ That is where your focus should be in avoiding being a doormat. Her coming around is COMPLETELY OUT of your control. So don't worry about it. Be the best you can be (through the GAL, detaching and 180ing) and she'll either come around or she won't.


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M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018