you drop the expectations, not hope. Expectations, unmet expectations hurt.
^^^^ This is what I came here to post.
You drop your attachment to the outcome. You learn that you can be happy and healthy whether or not your marriage will reconcile. Sure, you can PREFER to reconcile. And HOPE to reconcile. But you know that it is going to be OK if that isnt the result. If you judge your success in the process and in your life by whether or not you reconcile, you are setting yourself up for failure and hurt. Take control of your life.
