I apologize in advance but I need to vent. I coach my youngest daughters basketball team so I went to pick her up tonight at the ew place. She gets in the car and proceeds to tell me that mommy’s BF was over, showed me the shirt that he bought them and he was staying for dinner and he is their with his two chiwawas. It is just frustrating, she hated our dogs now she is hanging out with his, she never told me she was going to let the girls know he was her BF, I guess she doesn’t need to tell me he is going to be there for dinner but man does this suck. Him playing happy homemaker with my ew and my daughters. I really, really, really hate her in this moment. I know it’s part of the deal by fuch she is so fuching selfish, and snakey just like her fuched up mother.
No wonder why she texted me and told me to just pull-up and she would send our daughter out. Did she not think our youngest would say something?????? Is she that fuching weak that she just can’t tell me???? And she sends me daughter out wearing an Oxford T-shirt he bought them when he went to Europe.......like is she rubbing it in my face, like didn’t think I would notice or just having a blonde moment??? I want to tear into her so bad right now but I know I can’t. Uggh!!!!!
Good for venting that away. It is hard but it is your xw life now. It matches her choices and it feeds HER monkeys. You have chosen a different road, so be proud of YOUR choices. It is where you stand now. Get the benefits man, it is respect. Your Ds are seen this. You have nothing to hide.
Hey man as my friend warned me its another a dick punch. You get back up and dust yourself off. Unless it is in your D agreement there is nothing you can do about it. That's the reality now. When we ignore reality we suffer.
I caught up on your sitch and wanted to chime in that I think you need to be careful about settling to try to keep up with your wife. IMO attraction is not a choice, you either have it or you don't and you know within the first 30 seconds.
Your day will come my friend I am sure of it. Things will work out for you the way they did for AS, Accuray and others.
Thanks guys......I know there is nothing I can do and saying anything will only make it worse. My girls don’t know anything different and I certainly don’t want to make it awkward for them. I guess today is one of those days where I don’t feel as though I am shining, it feels like she gets to do whatever she wants with no consequences, and her life just continues on without skipping a beat, essentially getting everything she wants. I know it’s not all not necessarily true but it really [censored].
Hey L......I am going to give it one more date and see how I feel. I don’t think I am committed after two dates but I agree I don’t want to settle if I am really not feeling it.
We all are aware of the consequences of what we do. We can choose not to face them sometimes but, believe me, they go after you. I try not to remember certain states of mind I got back at the dark side ... but I use them when ow memories swirl around in my head ... it is like vampire facing garlic, it works!
N...I hear ya. I am sure she has struggled in her own way even though it is not visible to me. I know deep inside it is part of the process and eventually I will introduce my girls to someone else but for whatever reason (I guess because she started this) it hurts.
Of course it does J9. It does. But you have to set your mind when facing these facts. Feed only your monkeys. I know it is no easy but it is the best for you and your Ds. Like LH says, it gets better day by day.
I know the spark is a dye hard b!tch. We live on hope. So keep shining and enjoying your Ds.
And change the name for widow. Or is it just me? ...
