I'm a bit confused about my wedding band. W stopped wearing hers in April, I believe. For a while, she would wear it when we would get together with friends or family, but that stopped altogether in June.
I have continued to wear mine. I see it as a symbol of my commitment to our MR. But how does she see it? Is it a reminder every time she sees it that she feels trapped? Should I take it off for that reason? Or should I take it off as part of my detachment process, as a way to start accepting that she is likely leaving? Or should I keep it on as a silent symbol that I am still committed? Or does it not matter at all?
WillD78...so I have felt those exact same feelings as you. My W took her's off pretty much right after she left. I kept mine on solid for another 3 months or so. When I took it off, W definitely noticed and it unleashed some crazy actions from her. To this day I go back and forth between wearing it and not wearing it. I've just allowed my feelings/where I'm at in my acceptance of what is happening to guide me. There is no right answer, but that which feels right to you. For example yesterday no ring, today wearing it. It's crazy to me, but so long as I'm comfortable with it that's all that matters.
