Damn EyeTie, I'm really sorry to hear that. Its really unfortunate for the kids, I hate when people try to manipulate the situation and use them as ammo against the other parent. My parents did it, I absolutely hated it.
I'm sure this goes without saying but even with all the negative feelings towards her, never bash her in front of the kids. Even if its the truth any negative [censored] talking ends up being taken personal by them. Part of the kid is associated to the parents that created them, so any insult to the parent ends up being internalized at something being wrong with them also. At least that's how I took it, I just didn't realize it until years later.
I hope the court date next month goes well, you deserve to be in there lives as much as possible, good luck!
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
