Arsh, that's really fast. In some ways that's too fast to even realize what's happening but on the other hand, if it happens so fast, your husband could snap back just as fast once he realizes what he's done. The move-out and actual divorce sound just miserable both are my worst nightmare. I survived one and not yet the other, but you're doing both with a baby and toddler. It's kind of unbelievable. I saw a functional medicine practitioner last fall and described my husband's behavior and how I was raising my daughter alone and she said "I can't believe you haven't had a nervous breakdown." Everyone last year when my husband moved out said I needed to take SSRI's. Maybe I should have tried them but I read there are side effects and it's hard to get off them. In your case you're nursing a baby so you can't really take them, but I bet for a lot of people they're key to getting through something like this. I wish there'd be a way to find out where you live. I'd come to visit you! I'm in the Northeast USA but we can't really offer specifics on this forum. You can join AnotherSTander's DB Society on Facebook although I think he made it private but we could try asking him to re-open it. Otherwise I hope you'll have a few other special friends who will keep you company and check on you when your husband moves out. Limbo would better although in your case there's a high chance divorce is what your husband needs to come back home so hopefully by allowing this to happen and letting him experience his new life it'll bring him back. My guess is once he comes back he'll be very humble and ready to be an improved version of the guy you originally married. It's at least good that he'll still help with the children - my husband is totally gone. Even when I was extremely ill last year and even now when my daughter and I were sick for six weeks street this summer my husband didn't make any effort whatsoever to help. At least if you get sick your husband can help with the kids but I know that doesn't help much in making you feel better. It's just a nightmare and nothing can really lessen the pain except those two beautiful angels you have will never leave you.
