Thread #6: Piecing and R.....plus parenting a 15yo

[Davide]

Steve,

I don't mean to belittle Sandi's rules at all, I think they are extremely helpful. I do question them being put forth in quiet reverence as if they are the words of the Lord which must never be looked at critically. I'm just not a fan of unquestioning belief in anything.

In terms of your question, I see what you did there. A very psychiatrist-like move. I ask you a question and you turn it back around on me and ask me what I think it means.

I have read through the whole detachment thread countless times. I have printed it out and have a dog-eared and underlined/highlighted copy sitting in my car right now. In short it is drawing back emotionally so that you are no longer codependent or overly emotionally reactive to another person. It is drawing healthy emotional boundaries. I'm sure I'm leaving out a lot, and I am interested in hearing what you think is important that I left out. That said, my question still stands. It seems to me that hope is the rope that we need to drop. It is strangling us and keeping us attached and under water. I'm happy to hear a differing opinion or to be proven wrong.