It does give comfort to hear that the script is the same. It feels like its common and not unique to me.
Surely, there has to be something linked to the fact that the script is the same, where ever you are in the world. It follows a set pattern and it would appear my wife's desire to leave and divorce also follows that set pattern.
If it wasn't for me, she would be happy. I'm not perfect, so its easy to find fault and justification to leave. Having read AmyCs posts, I understand how the negative mindset erases all the good; I hope she comes out of it in time.
sjohns6 - I sometimes do wonder whether MLC is real or just something LBS hang onto in hope their spouses will return. From everything I have read here and from my own experience, I do believe its real. I can see the depression, the fog, the confusion, the contradictory behaviour and the general malaise in my wife; she wants to leave but is in no rush? She also admits she has never discussed it with her closet friends. That for me confirms the confusion?
I have my own confusion about my wife leaving - on the onehand it will help me detach, but on the other I want to keep my family together; she insists I won't miss her. I know I will. I will miss the woman I married, not the alien version of her.
In fact, she has already left emotionally and I miss her emmensly.
Whatever happens - I know I will be ok. I have plenty to be grateful for;
You can't make someone be with you if they don't want to be, regardless of the crisis we know they are going through. If my wife wants to be on her own, I have to let her go.
