Need advice on detaching- Part 2

[kiro]

Thank you Sandi for this detailed description. It's great to remind us what this really is when we start going off track into unrelated ground. What you have described is a very accurate description of my W.

I know what love is for me, but could you please elaborate what that means for a woman. You say that a WW feels no love for her H. For me, love is a choice. It's an action and a verb more than a feeling. The feeling of love changes all the time. Depending on what I do, what I think or depending on my sexual desire, my feeling of love goes up or goes down. Even now, I think I can trigger love to my W when I want by thinking certain things. And I can make it disappear completely by thinking other things or following the detachment rules for example.

So what is it for women and especially for WWs? How is it related to sexual desire and to attractiveness?

When you say that some WW can change. How would that start usually?

I'm not looking to change anything, but I am curious. Maybe even that information could help me in a future relationship to avoid similar mistakes and catch things earlier on.