Advice Needed To Deal With WW - Part 3

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I suppose I shouldn't be looking for insight into her different behaviors.

Good luck with that. lol Just kidding. I'm sure you can achieve that, but it's not easy and it takes time.

I think it's ok to analyze until your analytical brain reaches the conclusion that it has looked at every possible aspect and analyzed every piece of information available and that continuing down that path leads to nowhere. I am saying this because I am in a similar situation, analyzing all the time. But my brain will not accept letting go before having looked at all possibilities. We have to be realistic. We need answers and it's not to let go until we reach the conclusion ourselves that it is enough. I read tons of articles and books on the topic in addition to this forum where I continue to learn new things every day. I think this is part of the journey to healing, peace and acceptance. And it comes with some pain of course.

On the other hand, you can't be doing only that all the time. You need to make sure that you GAL and take care of yourself. IMO, both extremes would be wrong: Analyzing the Sitch day and night or Ignoring it completely and trying to busy ourselves with other things in order not to think about it at all.

Thanks for your perspective Kiro!

Yeah, I definitely feel the need to analyze everything. It does somewhat appease my mind even though it never seems to lead anywhere, lol. I do feel like I've slide backwards a little every time with my detachment when I analyze though so I should try to limit it at least somewhat (as much as my mind will allow it anyways ). I know that detachment and GAL are the only real way forward for my sitch.