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To play devil's advocate - if you don't want to see someone everyday, then are you really into the relationship?


Two replies to this:
One, I'm an introvert and need time alone to recharge. I work with people all day AND have a houseful of family who also need my time and attention, so no, I don't want to see someone every day because that would suck up all my limited available time. Especially not when we've only started dating and I'm still getting to know them.

Two - having made such a mistake about crazy exBF, I'm trying to take my time and get to know CMM better. He's also in a slightly different place than me - I was just cautiously dipping my toes back into the dating waters after the traumatic experiences with crazy exBF (Love Avoidant FWB didn't really count as dating, I've known him a long time and that was just a friendly once a month thing, no strings). He's the first new guy I've dated since exBF and I'm on the alert for red flags. CMM on the other hand hasn't had a serious relationship since his divorce 4-5 years ago and would like nothing better than to settle into a serious long-term commitment right away. He's lonely and his girls don't live anywhere nearby and his social life revolved around parenting them when they were younger so he has a bit of a social void that he'd like to fill with seeing me. (Also since he's in sales he's likely more of an extrovert.)