Need advice on detaching- Part 2

[SteveLW]

Kiro I think you have the loss of faith and morals backwards. Most WASs don't become so because they lost their faith and morals. They lose their faith and morals because they've become walk away.

My W was like that. She was a devout Christian woman. In December she was ready to throw that all aside to follow her waywardness. WASs, once they decide what they are going to do, strive to rid their lives of anythingand anyone that's contrary to that. This is discussed all the time on the board. WAS will cut out friends and family that try to tell them that what they are doing is wrong.

Remember most WAWs (not sure about WAHs) have been plotting their escape for two years prior to BD. That's a long time to come to grips with the setting aside of their long held values. By time BD hits they are ready to jettison any and all things contrary to that plan.

This why sandi stresses that she isn't the girl you married nor does she care about her prior beliefs and morals any longer. Because they don't align with her wayward mindset.

This is why trying to shame them into staying based on their previous values doesn't work. They simply don't care about that anymore. At least for right now.