Husband left for the second time - 5

[kiro]

The psychologist said my husband is lost in life.

I think this the best way to describe it. And you should leave it at that.

My guess is we'll get divorced and my husband will live a playboy life until he finally settles down with a super attractive younger woman in ten years and I'll stay single for the next ten years while raising our daughter.

Maybe and maybe not. But regardless, once you move on, you shouldn't worry what he does. But I also believe in Universal Justice. Every injustice done will have a price to pay at some point in time. He may find short-lived pleasures in some playboy relationships, but sooner or later, he will pay the price. This is why each of us needs to hold strongly to our values. It is so easy to fall in the same trap as the Wayward Spouse and start behaving in immature ways that we will regret. I agree that you are probably not ready for a new R, mostly because you don't want to hurt someone by committing too early.

For some it really does happen, but for most life is a struggle no matter how hard we work or try to prevent bad things from happening.

There is much more in life than relationships and marriage. What happens to a LBS is an opportunity to reevaluate our life and find meaning to our existence. If you are successful in this search, in my opinion, you will find meaning in trying to become a better person, building character, purifying your heart, and doing good in this world. The WAS chose selfishness. We should choose the opposite. Helping others. Becoming generous. Love. Etc.