Overnbow, I'm really happy to read this. All I can say is I've been through this once already and I said the same things about counseling and a lot of work etc.. and my husband said yes, he'd do anything and can't live without his family. Guess what? He didn't put in the work. So I guess you need to go in stages and not offer a complete yes or no, or make it conditional upon simply going to counseling, but rather on her actions to restore your trust and rebuild the marriage. I think the burden should be on her. You can state what you need to see happen to give her another chance but I wouldn't be too quick to offer that second chance. Perhaps you can say it depends. You and your wife are young and this just happened recently so it seems it can be fixed, but you and your wife still have a long life and future ahead of you. If you let this slide too easily it will teach her she can do it again and still get away with it, so there's a lot to consider. It seems you can say how you'd love to make it work and try again but you're not sure until she really proves that she wants that too. In any case it's great news and you're getting the second chance that many dream to have!
