I think we are living through very similar situations and emotions and our timelines are very close. Right now I am living through a period of beating myself up a good bit. I see what an emotional leach I was, and I can understand why that would be unattractive and repulsive to anyone. I think it is important to recognize those deficiencies, because otherwise how are we going to correct them? The trick is in recognizing these problems and addressing them without self-flagellating excessively. If you are like me it is way too easy to fall into wallowing in depression or self-pity.
While going through that process it is hard to recognize that W is going through her own issues, and has her own problems. Her unhappiness may be partially related to the negative relationship, but most likely it has deeper roots and she needs to go through her own process of self-evaluation and self-growth. Anyone who walks out on a relationship without making an honest attempt to work through the problems clearly has issues of her own. That isn't a normal or healthy response. Joseph is so right - happiness has to come from within, both for us and for the WAW. She is out there looking for happiness through a new single life - that's a losing strategy. New friends, new activities, new clothes, new relationships, none of that is going to fill the emptiness in her heart, or in ours.
Hang in there. You are worthy.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
