Need advice on detaching- Part 2

[kiro]

First step forward is accepting that W has changed and is free to decide who she wants to be, who she wants to be with, where she wants to live, and how she wants to live. I may not disagree with it and may think that it is totally insane, but what I think does not matter when it comes to what she will do.

I don't have to like who she has become, but I won't waste any more time judging her just like I don't waste time judging anyone who lives with values I don't agree with. She is like that cashier in the supermarket.

I think this is what Sandi, Steve, Eric and everyone else was trying to tell me.