Hello there, FaceMan. I just got caught up on your situation. I know that several have said that their spouses have said similar things as your W, and I want to jump in on that too. My W has expressed all the things yours has, almost verbatim. There has to be something to the fact that its a script. I wonder sometimes too if I am being naive about MLC and if maybe our R has just run its course, but that 180 they do and then the script...and the foggy eyes. Mine added to that by not wearing her wedding ring and telling me it felt like a symbol of possession. Mine also wanted to move out but drug her heels in doing so...until she finally did about a month ago.
This is a hard time to go through. I struggle with it as we all do. I can say that her moving out has been bittersweet. On one hand I have finally been able to detach to a degree. I did not realize how much her being close to me was poisoning my thinking. Not that I want her gone, but I can finally see how it was not good for me being so close to her...even if I was trying to give her space and doing my best to GAL and DB. On the other hand, seeing her every day I was able to see the MLC behavior and her conflicting behavior. Now, without seeing her much at all, when I do see her all I see is her happy mask which is almost normal. That is unsettling because it now just seems like she is happy doing her own thing. Point being...things can still get worse before getting better so protect your heart by detaching if you can. its an ongoing effort!
We are here to vent to, to answer questions, and give our own insight when you need it. I'm sorry you had to come here, but this is a great group and some of the few people who will TRULY understand what you are going through.
