Hi Brubeck....I have read AmyC's postings - quite incredible and from the heart. I can only live in hope that my wife slowly wakes up to the damage and carnage she is leaving in her wake.
I feel it will be some type of loss that will make this happen. a realisation over time that her family she once relied on and had by her side have now gone.
I have had the following quotes.
I love you but I'm not in love with you. I no longer love you. I dont feel the same way about you like I used to. I no longer want to be married. I don't want to be weighed down by marriage I feel controlled. I haven't tried to save my marriage because its not what I want anymore. I don't want this anymore - this referring to the family unit. I just want to be with my friends. I'm doing whats right for me The children are resilient and will adjust, I'm unhappy and I don't know why. I don't know what would make me happy I know being with you makes me unhappy. I'm happy away from the house.
..........and the list goes on....
She keeps it together in front of the children and is a great mother, but is clearly unhappy and I'm solely responsible for her unhappiness. Once she gets away from me she will be happy and the only way to know that for sure, is to separate. I don't quite understand the logic behind it - I guess there is no point in even trying to understand.
I'm keeping busy, getting a life, enjoying my job and the kids and leaving her to get on with that she needs to do. Tough times.
