Need advice on detaching- Part 2

[kiro]

Hi all,

Thank you for your supporting words. I do appreciate more than you can ever imagine what this forum is offering. And this is why I keep coming back. And I do appreciate the time that you put to reply to me. And yes, I know how invaluable Sandi's advice is, but also everyone else.

Today, I called a lawyer for 1 hour and got a lot of information about divorce and mediation. It's a free service I have through my employer and I can call as many times as I want. It is super cool as a service. I learned a lot about what to expect in terms of dividing assets, spousal support, child custody, etc. The lawyer told me that my best option is to go to mediation and negotiate a deal.

Apparently, it's more beneficial to me financially that I start this process as soon as possible because the more I wait the more I would be spending money that I will not recuperate. He also gave me an idea of how much I would be paying for spousal support. I asked him if it was better if I stopped paying her car, her insurance, etc., but he had a good point. He said that it's better not to upset her now so I have her cooperation during mediation. Otherwise, she will be angry and will be tougher during the negotiations.

Anyway, I am curious to hear your thoughts. The lawyer recommends going to mediation sooner rather than later. But some of you thought that it's better not to do anything now and to give it more time...