I'm ok with her being the "crappy" parent. I'm not looking to control her, I know I cant. Looking to work on me. To GAL, to exercise, to socialize and become a better person. I cant make some of that happen while doing child care.
I do use our workout machine/weights when the kids go to bed, but the finding a life part is tough.
We did eventually sit down and plan out the next couple of months, so thats progress I guess. In dropping the rope, shes now having to fill the car, get groceries etc. She was out again late yesterday with what I sure is OM2... shes planning to go out late again tomorrow, with OM2 and their crowd. Its also our anniversary tomorrow. Gonna be tough. Trying to stay positive, but the deep down sadness is a bit overwhelming right now.