V, I am virtually reaching out and giving you a hug, this is exactly what a girl friend of mine who knows the sitch says. Maika, Nicole and Eric thank you. And yes he is Not a monster, I have called him a gentle giant in the past life, right now he has just gone temporarily mental. I am not giving him the credit, I KNOW I married and had children with a good person. So right now I am treating his outbursts for what they are, immature childish tantrums. Seems like I have a 3 yr old, an infant and a teenager who wants to run away from home.
I am struggling with the difference between ignoring and being cold and detaching. My responses clearly convey I don’t give a darn but that’s not being a friendly neighbor. I read on other threads how ignoring them pushes them away and he has communicated multiple times I am trying to be independent indifferent and not cooperating even about kids. I don’t know if I should buy this and actually make an effort to be a tad bit friendly. Such a thin line between being indifferent and detached. I should consciously work on this, I know I am at the end of the road but well never give up right.
I want to say to him go figure out your issues get that head of yours straight and come back, I got the kids and we will be fine. Patience is my friend so quiet I shall stay
