The most confusing part for me is that we get along great. We talk. We laugh. We enjoy each other's company. We don't fight. We are a team. We are friends. Why does she refuse to work on us? Is it cake-eating?
She friend-zoned you a long time ago. The two of you get along and work as a team, but she doesn't think of you as a lover. She doesn't feel the attraction. Once she moves out, she'll probably still expect to continue doing things as a family (yes, it's cake eating). She'll probably still turn to you as a friend (more cake). She just won't desire you as a man.
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My folks invited us over for dinner last night. W knew I was going and taking the girls, but we had not discussed her attendance. Shortly before we left, I asked her if she was going to go. "I would like to, is that OK?" she said. "Yes," I replied. We had a lovely meal with my family and the girls enjoyed some playtime with their cousins. Nothing to report here, I suppose.
Do your folks, or anyone, know that she is leaving you? As long as you continue to include her in family events, nothing changes for her. She'll expect to be included in holiday celebrations, family traditions, etc. So, she will get all the benefits of being M to you, without any of the responsibilities. She can join in the part she likes and then go back to her place.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
