kiro, please do not think frank talk and directly telling you when you did something counter to what you should be doing as "not supporting" you. Our support is to encourage, but also to make sure you know when you do things to hurt your chances.
Remember, the people taking the time out of their day to post here are not here for any other reason than to try and help you. Always remember that. Even the tough, frank talk comes from a place of wanting to help. When you pursue and apply pressure, and we tell you that is what you are doing, it is because we want you to be successful, that's all.
Remember, support isn't just "Good job! Way to go!" There are no participation trophies in dealing with marital problems. Some of the best support is to hear what you are doing wrong so that you can 180 on it. Everyone that posts here want nothing more than for Kiro to be posting here in a year, well into piecing and R, and giving sound, direct and sometimes tough advice to others.
When it comes to sandi, you can't ask for a better person to help you in your sitch. So take what she says to heart, ESPECIALLY when she is telling you something that is difficult to hear. Remember, she was once where your W is now. Her insight is invaluable............
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
