Now, if i was the volatile dissenter you seem to imply I am, would you not expect an angry tirade in response as opposed to a articulated response?
In the future please frame your comments in a less assumptive and accusatory manner, and try to offer a comment that has some developmental structure to it, as opposed to playground finger pointing.
Well, you certainly present yourself that way.
Did I expect that ?
Yea, I kinda did. You have certainly shown that within your threads that I have read.
Not going your way, you lash out, and when that doesn't work, you threaten to pick up your toys from the sandbox and go home.
I'm fairly sure that you are on a public forum, and an advice filled public forum at that. So I am fairly sure that I won't be dictated as to how, when, where , or why I should post.
Developmental structure ?
How about this...
Everything , except what is pertaining to yourself, is an assumption here. EVERYTHING...
There is only ONE person that knows what your spouse is thinking, feeling, or acting...
And that isn't you or anyone else posting here....
Believe it or not, people have patterns of behavior. What seems to hold true here are certain patterns of thought, and actions from a WAS.
Yet there are also certain patterns of thoughts and actions from the LBS. From focusing on every bat of an eyelash, to wondering why they are wearing different shoes that particular day. Or perhaps why they have a certain look on their face.
Everyone that comes here thinks that their situation is unique and different. And while there are subtle differences, they aren't as unique as first described.
All that we have, and it certainly is true here, is what we present to others. What you think is me isn't any of my business, and I certainly will not hold you accountable for my actions or responses to you through my actions.
Truth is perception...
Perception is based on how you present yourself....
So the perception that I am left with, is that you present yourself as educated, argumentative, angry, defensive, superior, judgmental, and have a strong need to be "correct"....
Is it true ??
It doesn't really matter, it is how you have chosen to present yourself.....
I have no drive or desire to argue with you, it serves me nothing. Nobody wins....
I, like everyone else who you have butted heads with, is here of their own free will, using our hard earned experience on which to draw from. so that we can share with you the mistakes, observations, and as you like to call them...assumptions, in hopes that you can refrain from making the same mistakes as we have in the past. Hopefully without having them scrutinized, and argued over.
People who have been where you are now, people who are where you want to be, and people who are walking the same path as you now.
So maybe you might think twice before you berate another poster for showing you some perspective on something that you haven't seen yet. Or maybe some respect to a person that has done the work that is ahead of you, trying to pull you along with them as they go.
And when you have walked a mile in my shoes, then I may allow you to dictate to me how, when, where, and why I can post on a public forum to you....
