Advice on my Scenario Pt. 19 - Valhalla Cometh

[OrangeK]

"WOW !!!


IF Steve can upset you that much, I can't imagine how you treated your spouse, who you are comfortable with, when she would irritate you...."

No, you cant imagine, because arguments were never and issue with my WIFE and I, not until the affair.
my WIFE never really upset me until i found out she had been cheating on me.
I was comfortable with a fabricated personality. NOT who my wife really is.
As i said, several times, Steve did not upset me.
Just because i disagree with Steve on a point or two, and we have a back and forth DISCUSSION about the conversation, does not mean he upset me.

"Steve, i would really like to see you try and move away from this image you seem to have of me, pining, and writhing in misery. That is no longer my existence. It has been this way for a few weeks now. "


I would also like to point out the following, which you seemed to gloss over.

1.) "I know 100% in my heart all you aim to do is help, you have made that very clear. you are a compassionate, caring person Steve. that bleeds through in your posts, and it is an endearing trait, especially in this seemingly cold and inhuman era of time in which we live. "

2.) "Steve, I dot hope you understand I was never angry or upset with you.
Peeved, irritated, frustrated?
Sure, but these days it takes a lot to actually provoke legitimate anger from me anymore."

3.) "Steve, i always appreciate the back and forth with you.
Ask me questions and I will give honest answers. "

4.) "I am capable of disagreeing with someone and retaining mutual respect Steve. "

That being said,

I do not appreciate you making assumptions about how i treated my wife. You have never commented on my thread, and doubtfully read the entire thing.
I treat my wife like the woman i believed her to be, an honest, trustworthy caring person. She is none of those things.
I never belittled my wife, spoke down to her, expected anything from her but love and kindness.
So, as i said to Steve, Perhaps you should ASK QUESTIONS instead of making assumptions about how i treated my wife IRL. I find that quite offensive that you would assume a huge flaw in my personality and the way i treated the Mother of my Son and what i thought to be the love of my life, based on my reaction and response to a conversation you didnt take the time to fully educate yourself on.

I came to this board for constructive criticism and support. Steve offers me constructive criticism, and sometimes we lock horns over it. Its happened before, im sure itll happen again. I still appreciate the HELL out of all the support and advice he has given me.

Your post however was just drama for drama's sake, it was assumptive about my demeanor and how i treat my loved ones and i don't appreciate it.
Now, if i was the volatile dissenter you seem to imply I am, would you not expect an angry tirade in response as opposed to a articulated response?

In the future please frame your comments in a less assumptive and accusatory manner, and try to offer a comment that has some developmental structure to it, as opposed to playground finger pointing.