Advice on my Scenario Pt. 19 - Valhalla Cometh

[OrangeK]

Nobody is perfect Steve, least of all anyone who finds themselves on this board.

Perchance to over-react? assuredly. I wont disagree there.

I know 100% in my heart all you aim to do is help, you have made that very clear. you are a compassionate, caring person Steve. that bleeds through in your posts, and it is an endearing trait, especially in this seemingly cold and inhuman era of time in which we live.

I have no issue hearing negative things, disagreement breeds discussions, and discussions breed results.
I do have issue with assumptions and jumps to conclusion, which I am equally guilty in regards to WIFE.

Your points you made are totally valid ones, but based on assumptions in some cases.
Had you asked me questions first, we could have had a much clearer and productive conversation. That is the only point I am trying to make here.

I will say i may be sensitive to the demasculating choices of words such as "Puppy dog" and "watching like a hawk".
terminology like that isnt exactly helpful with someone who's self esteem is already compromised from emotional abuse.

Did seeing her effect me? absolutely. I knew it would.
Did her boldness in bringing OM to My house irritate me? Certainly.

That being said, i do think being as open as i was yesterday was a mistake. It didnt turn out awful like it could have, but was still unwise.
Sandi makes good points on her post.

I should have posted here before messaging her.
I admit 100% i messaged her because i had gotten used to her messaging me each day, and I felt empowered by not replying.
When she DIDNT text me about S3, i got paranoid about him sleeping at OM's house, and that paranoia built throughout the day until it defeated my resolve and i caved and texted her.
She took the power back by ignoring me. I can see now the strength it has to go dark, and it works both ways.

it was ill advised. I think the results may cause her to be a bit more open with me, but i also dont trust her to be honest or legitimately nice or accommodating, but at least now the tension has been defused a bit.