"Then when SIL turned the corner into WIFE's line of sight, the mask INSTANTLY went on, and she switched from scowling and brooding looking to bubbly happy and being overly nice to SIL who she outwardly hated for years. "
This is natural human social behavior. How many times have you been in argument with your W or GF on the way some where, to a get together, then you get out of the car and you both turn on the "so happy to be here" routine?
The real question is why were you so focused on her that day? It appears you were staring at her through the window like a puppy dog waiting for master to come home.
Next time pickup time happens like that, resolve to not even look out the window. VOW to yourself not to care about her, how she looks, what her demeanor is, whether loser OM is with her, what they are driving, etc.
Whether or not you want to admit it, you are still way too attached. And until you admit that to yourself I don't see you making progress. ACTION, not words. You type how you don't care a lot on here, but what are you DOING (like not watching her like a hawk through the window at pickup) to BE detached??
Ok I will brace for your response in case this hit a nerve....
Firstly, it seems you like to "hit a nerve" With me Steve, hense your antagonistic winky face after a comment you knew would irritate me, Do you like being provocative and antagonistic? Does it make you feel superior? Perhaps thats a personality trait you need to work on, how many times have you accused me of passive-aggressiveness? If that last sentence of your post wasn't passive aggressive, then I am the King of The Moon.
you accuse me of "puppy dog" behavior, again without asking about specifics of the situation as it happened.
Her behavior isnt normal, being that fake and dis-genuine is not normal behavior. I really feel like you agree with her more than me most times,
I wasnt watching her like a hawk. Again your ASSUMPTIONS. Which are beginning to Irk me Steve. My brother was outside, weeding the garden, out of her line of sight, and saw the exchange happen. THe only time i saw her is when i went outside with a trash bag when i thought she had already left. But again, you ASSUMED my actions, location and mood regarding Sundays pickup.
Gather your evidence before you make accusations Sir.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
