Ballast,

Quit blaming yourself, improve yourself.

Your W is also doing some revisionist history. People's current moods affect how they view the past, and events change to suit their current feelings.

Your W is full of it right now, don't listen to her BS and don't take any grief from her.

In other words, stop going down cheeseless tunnels.

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.