So if you suspect she just wants the kids when you are scheduled with them to argue, then call her bluff. Next time she says she wants the kids on one of your nights, just say "ok". It sounds like you have plenty of time with them so I would feel free to give up a night or two here or there to see how she reacts. Likely she will be expecting an argument, and when she doesn't get it, and she gets "stuck" (from her perspective) with the kids a couple of times more than likely her requests will cease.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
