Gordie #20: patiently living my life

[Rose888]

A few thoughts, which might lead to conflicting advice. ;-)

If I remember your timeline correctly, your wife made a lot of changes before you had any indication there was trouble in your marriage. The two biggies I remember are that her spiritual beliefs changed and she started a business when before she was a SAHM.

And although you supported the business (at least on some level), I remember you saying that you were not as understanding or respectful of some of her changes in religious belief.

Am I remembering correctly?

If so, I can see your wife trying to figure out if returning to the marriage would mean returning to her old self, or if she can keep any of her new self in a new marriage.

And if so, it might be important for her to share her activities with you.

It sounds like participating some of the time is an option, so you would not need to give up your priorities in general, just choose to make her the priority some of the time.

What would your 180 behavior be?

Studies show that doing new things together lights up the same parts of the brain as new love.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.